Star Plus Perfect Bride: Rajbeer, Try to be decisive

How did we arrive at our present circumstances in life? What caused us to become what we are today? Oh, we might have been nudged along by our genetic code, pressed on by our natural inclinations, pressured by our peers, influenced by our environment, and driven by psychological impulses, but none of these forces created us; they merely added color and texture. The mortar we use to shape our lives is the power of decision, and the individual bricks that form the monument we have erected are the countless choices we have made.

Rajbeer can ask same question from himself. How did he arrive at his present circumstances in life?

Sometimes we decide not to decide. The decision not to act is not necessarily the wrong one. It depends on the circumstances. On the one hand we don't want to be rash and act on our impulses without considering the consequences of our actions, and on the other hand we don't want to be indecisive and indefinitely refuse to act, for if we do so, we'll remain in a rut, with no hope for the better in sight. It's a matter of balance. And we arrive at that balance by analyzing our decisions and our motives for those decisions.

As far as I think, Rajbeer is somehow unable to balance between two. He is still in state of indecisiveness. He does not know how to act and what to choose. A man cannot make progress in life, if he takes that much time in deciding his future course of action. If this is his characteristic, then he will suffer lot in life because of this. Refusing to act until we have ENOUGH information is a wise decision. But refusing to act until we have ALL the information is probably unrealistic.


It is his mistake that he has made believes that there is only ONE correct answer and refusing to act unless they arrive at that answer. He forget that life is not about choosing One right path only and it is not correct that there is only one right path.

To make the largest gains, try to be decisive. That is, make decisions quickly. For the faster you act, the more time you will have to make more decisions, thereby speeding up your progress. Yet, you will want to balance speed with sufficient time to make thoughtful decisions. For if you act too quickly, you may make mistakes that slow down your progress or even bring it to a halt.

Making the decision to act is the easy part. Following through on that decision is the crucial part. Be decisive. Don't allow the following contemptuous words of Winston Churchill apply to you, "They are decided only to be undecided, resolved to be irresolute, adamant for drift, solid for fluidity, all-powerful to be impotent." You are not impotent. You are important.